As a top Life Coach in Bournemouth, people often hire me because they want to know how to do something. Or sometimes, because they don’t quite know what to do.
They might want to know how to grow their business.
They might ask how to feel more fulfilled.
Sometimes people want to know how to be healthier, lose weight, and feel more vibrant.
People often want to feel more present in life.
They could Google the answer to all these things. The information on how to do anything is out there.
I mean, really, if you want to live a great life, I can tell you right now what to do…
- Meditate
- Eat healthily
- Be mindful of what substances and drugs you put into your body
- Hang around people that you enjoy spending time with
- Accept all of your emotions
- Exercise
- Get out in nature
- Never work a day in your life (do what you love)
- Get some good sleep
- Etc
It’s not rocket science right.
But people don’t do it.
That’s because you need an identity shift.
Without an identity shift, you’ll either keep doing what you’ve already done, or you’ll rely on willpower to get you through making changes, but willpower is not sustainable.
If you’ve ever wondered why you can’t seem to change something, then you’ll want to understand what I’m about to say…
Or if you keep coming across the same patterns in life, this is for you…
We need to change, or even transform how we see things. That’s basically what transformative coaching is about – transforming how you see yourself, others, situations, and life.
Basically, if you occur to yourself as someone who’s not articulate, you’ll go through life acting in that way, reinforcing that belief. You miss out on opportunities to develop your articulation, because it doesn’t occur to you that you can get good at this.
Or if you identify as someone who is stupid and so it doesn’t occur to you that you can do certain things, or perform well in life, thereby missing out on opportunities that you’d love to do, and actually developing your skills in those areas of life.
Or, if life occurs to you as hard work, then you will work hard to get through it. Wondering why things never change. Missing out on the enjoyment and fun that is available.
You can completely transform how you see yourself, life, and others.
Because here’s what I learnt…
We created our identity. Our identity is not only the way we identify ourselves, but how we identify with other people, events, and the world.
In other words, our so called ‘personality’ is not some fixed static unchanging thing. When we identify it as fixed, it remains so. But when we realise that we created our personality/identity through a set of beliefs and decisions, we become much more present, fluid, and adaptable.
So, we can recreate and reinvent ourselves and how we operate in life.
If you’re considering a change and would like support exploring your direction, you can find out more about my life coaching sessions.