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From fear to confidence

From fear to confidence

According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Which means that we live in an interesting World when we consider what this means.

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What else we will cover:

From a fixed mindset to open and creative mindset

Process metrics vs outcome metrics

From inspiration to action

A new way of thinking about productivity

Maximising engagement and enjoyment within the team

So, if you would like to sit down with a me and a few of your team to explore how to grow your business or set your goals or strategy, you can book a no obligation consultation below.

“Creativity is seeing what other’s see, and thinking what no one else ever thought”. Albert Einstein

“Creativity is seeing what other’s see, and thinking what no one else ever thought”. Albert Einstein

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Instead, what if you viewed it as not a problem?

Instead, what if you viewed it as not a problem?

Your prefrontal cortex would come back on line, you gain psychological perspective, and creative solution focused thinking.

So next time you think you have a problem, consider looking at it a different way.

#mindset #perspective #personalgrowth

How do we respond when someone hurts us? Have you

How do we respond when someone hurts us?

Have you ever held open the door for someone, and they’ve just walked past and blanked you? Have you then wished you didn’t bother?

Or perhaps you’ve let someone go when driving and they didn’t acknowledge you?

Have you ever been hurt by a partner’s words or actions, and you’ve automatically reacted to their behaviour?

If someone’s behaviour causes us discomfort, it seems like the most natural thing in the World to react negatively to that person.

If someone’s behaviour is challenging, or downright hurtful or rude, it very understandably affects us emotionally.

But, if we start to look at this a bit deeper, this type of understanding begins to break down and starts making less sense.

For example, if I’m in a good mood, I tend to have better thinking. If then someone acts in such a way that might cause me some stress, or discomfort, I might think “meh” and let it go.

But if I’m feeling tired, stressed, upset already, and then someone acts in the same way, my reaction can be totally different. I might react with anger or become hurt and upset.

So, this alludes to the fact that there is another way of understanding our reactions to someone else’s behaviour.

What if we were more powerful than letting someone else’s actions affecting us?

And when I say affect us, I mean our security, groundedness, and sense of who we are.

In other words, the more secure we are in our thinking, and feeling, the less reactive we are and more understanding we are.

Understanding is power. And when it comes to relating to another human being, understanding brings compassion, and security to all involved.

So in order to understand, we need to look at what drives behaviour.

If someone is acting in a counterproductive way, this is always driven by feeling confused, hurt, or insecure.

Every single time someone acts in a hurtful way to another person, they are themselves hurting.

If someone is having insecure or confused thoughts, these thoughts led to insecure feelings and then maladaptive behaviours.

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Let’s start with a mindset shift… You don’t

Let’s start with a mindset shift…

You don’t have a problem making decisions – you have a problem with your relationship to psychological time.

Psychological time is the way we think about the past, present and future.

Time flows. But we forget that. We forget that the past is over, that it is now just a memory in our thoughts. We feel anxious about the future, and we forget that the future is just us imagining what may or may not happen. The future is empty. The future is pure possibility.

Let’s explore closely what happens when you consider making a decision – Your mind projects you forward into an imagined future.

If you picture that future as uncomfortable or even painful, it creates anxiety in the NOW.

If you picture an imagined future that feels good, that contains images of things you want, you feel that in the present moment.

And that is what drives the decision-making process.

We base our decisions on how we think it will make us feel in the future, based on our unique values and viewpoint of the World.

When you make a decision, you draw from your past experiences to guide you. If you went hiking once in Canada and were attacked by a bear, and someone asks you if you want to go hiking in Canada or Scotland, you will feel the memory of that fear in the here and now. That feeling then guides your imagined future, and your decision making.

Or, if you once got food poisoning from eating chicken at a particular restaurant, and you are invited back to that same restaurant, you might not have the chicken. That memory will impact your imagined future.

That part’s obvious. Now let’s look at our relationship to our psychological future.

If we feel anxious about our future, we might fail to realise that the anxiety is here NOW, not in the future. We think the problem is about making a ‘wrong’ decision.

We misunderstand where our anxiety is coming from.

We think it is coming from our imagined future. A future where we suddenly realise that we’ve made a wrong decision.

But not only is that future imagined, but how can we possibly know if we made a wrong decision?

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#mindset #selfgrowth #personalimprovement

Here are 44 things that if I could go back in time

Here are 44 things that if I could go back in time, I would tell my younger self. They might just provoke your thinking.

1. Confidence comes after, not before. What you need is courage, not confidence.

2. Don’t waste your time and energy trying to solve imaginary problems that don’t exist. (This means your remembered past problems, and your future imagined ones).

3. Your fears make you foolish.

4. Most people do too much. Slow down. Paradoxically, often slowing down results in higher productivity and performance.

5.Your body doesn’t know the difference between reality, and thought.

6. Don’t take your thoughts so seriously. They are just words.

7. Energy flows where attention goes. Where we focus, we feel. We can create different ‘realities’ for ourselves based on our mindset and where we place our attention.

8. Don’t neglect what really matters in life.

9.You will continually forget what really matters in life. Remind yourself.

10. Trust yourself.

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Ok that heading was just for effect. The more accu

Ok that heading was just for effect. The more accurate heading would be – Affirmations don’t work on their own.

Affirmations do work – as long as you make them work for you. In short, you need to act as if they are true.

Affirmations are a common tool for building self-esteem, confidence, and creating a life of abundance.

If you don’t know what affirmations are, at the simplest level they are a series of positive statements, about yourself, or your life. For example, “I am confident, and carefree”, or “I make decisions with clarity”.

So, if you are someone that at times, lacks confidence, or is self-critical, or indecisive, affirmations could help you.

I often find however, that affirmations are not understood, and not used as powerfully as they can be.

Imagine saying to yourself; “I am worthy, and treat myself with love”, while you’ve had a day of eating rubbish food, criticising yourself, and not moving your body.

Or you have the affirmation; “I trust myself and follow my intuition”. Then when you go out for dinner you ask your friend or partner to help you decide on what you should have off the menu.

In this way, affirmations won’t do you much good.

Affirmations can be passive, or they can be active and congruent with our actions.

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We all have dreams. All of us. Maybe not since w

We all have dreams.

All of us. Maybe not since we were a child, before we learned to dismiss it, but we all have them.

If you are someone that decides to follow your dreams, you will come across your old friends - self-doubt, and anxiety.

They feel like they are they to protect you, to keep you safe.

But in reality they prevent you from growing.

Growth involves stepping outside your comfort zone, so stepping outside it will bring up the anxious thoughts, the thoughts of not being able to make it.

Growth should feel uncomfortable. If you feel uncomfortable, it means one of two things: 1, You are growing. Or 2, it is an opportunity for growth.

Are you following your dreams?

#followyourdreams #selfgrowth #selfimprovement

Cold dip anyone? There’s a lot of anecdotal evi

Cold dip anyone?

There’s a lot of anecdotal evidence out there about the benefits of cold water swimming and cold showers.

I took part in a research project today looking at gaining more evidence about the benefits of cold water on the brain and our bodies.

The hypothesis is that is enables us to better tolerate the stress response, and well as dampen down feelings of depression and anxiety. But there’s loads more benefits too!

I went in the brain scan machine before and after my cold water immersion.

I got told my brain looked like it was asleep in the fMRI! But when I told them I was a meditator, they got really interested!

So, cold shower tomorrow morning!? Who’s in?

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This short but powerful quote means so many things

This short but powerful quote means so many things.

To me, it reminds me that I am always in the present moment.

As much as I might strive to work towards a wonderful future, I ground myself in the here, and the now.

We don't have time. We are always in the flow of the now.

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